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8 Life Lessons I Learned on my Going Grey Journey.

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  1. Ruth says:

    This is a great blog which echoes so many of my thoughts. Thank you. I loved a bad day is not a bad life. Fabulous ❤️

    1. Mel says:

      Thank you so much for your comment back in March, Ruth. I am so sorry for not replying at the time. I had tech problems on my site, which are now resolved and now I have found comments, I hadn’t replied to. I am so glad you enjoyed the blog and I promise there will be more articles and inspiration to come. Thanks again. Mel x

  2. Leslie says:

    I thoroughly enjoyed your article about going grey. I, too, had my colors analyzed many years ago as a brunette. I was excited to learn that those same colors work for either color in the summer pallet. I do believe I look pale, but; realized today, I probably need to change my lip and cheek colors to add life to my look. Thank you so much.

    1. Mel says:

      Hi Leslie, thank you for your comment that you left ages ago and please accept my apologies for not replying until now. I have had tech problems on my site. I know, its so much easier when you know your colour palette and its reassuring to know it doesn’t change when owe go grey. I love the Summer Palette. My mum and my best friend are summers and they are such beautiful soft colour and I think they will look wonderful next to grey hair. x

  3. Linda says:

    It is Brave when you’re used to having someone around that always looking at you. But as a recently divorced woman I felt somewhat empowered to just be me instead of trying to make someone else happy it’s how I looked. The process of going gray has been pretty fun actually I did the same thing started with highlights and it’s growing out beautifully I get so many compliments on my hair. Even hairdressers tell me not to mess with it just leave it alone it looks good. I do go in for trims just to keep it styled. But I’m loving every minute of the transition.

    1. Mel says:

      Hi Linda, thank you for your comment back in April and huge apologies for not replying until now. Yes, I found the hightlights route really helped ease me into the transition too. It is so empowering to just be free to be yourself isn’t it, and often stopping the colouring process is a symbol of that. It’s nice to have hairdressers respect our hair colour.Thanks again, Mel x

  4. Suzy says:

    I LOVE this post! It’s so refreshing and liberating to let the real ‘you’ shine through by letting the grey come out naturally. I absolutely loved growing mine out – actually, I chopped it all off and had a pixie for a while (which I’ve gone back to a couple of times). I’m currently growing it long again because I miss the femininity of having long hair. It’s going through an awkward stage at the moment but I know it don’t last long lol!
    Suzy x

    1. Mel says:

      Hi Suzy, thank you so much for your comment and please accept my sincere apologies for the late response. I had some problems with accessing comments on my site. You are so brave cutting to a pixie, but I think that is the ideal way to start with healthy hair and one colour and then you can grow it out healthy to the length you want. I am looking forward to growing my hair longer too. I love long, grey healthy hair. x

  5. Mary says:

    Thank you for your blog. I am almost six months in and just turned 47. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and feel like I am one of the few going grey. I really enjoyed your post on getting your hair healthy. I need to work on that and will try the products you mentioned. I had been dyeing for 15 years or so and have course hair already that only looks good in blowouts. I just stopped going to hairdresser because I didn’t know if I could handle my stylist take on going grey. I am inspired this morning by your journey!

    1. Mel says:

      Hi Mary, Thank you so much for your comment and my sincere apologies for the delay in responding. I have had problems accessing the comments on my site, but thankfully it is sorted now. I am so glad you have found inspiration from the blog and it sounds like it is the right time for you to embrace your natural hair and keep it healthy. I found that the actual thought of having natural hair inspired me to look after it and not abuse it in any way going forward. Your hair will be forgiving, no matter how badly you have treated it in the past! Good Luck xx

  6. Michele says:

    I’m 6 months into growing my hair out. I just turned 60 and surprisingly I still have about 65% of my natural middle brown color. I’m committed to following through on this and my main concern is thinning hair on top which I concealed with low lights, highlights and scalp powder. I’m wondering if it will be harder to conceal once it’s all natural. I cannot imagine bothering with the constant salon visits for color and more frequently so as I age. It seemed a good time to ease into this when I still have a fair amount of my own color left. In the US it seems like I see so many 50 -60 year old women with the same shade of hair, colored with the same low lights and highlights to conceal their grays. It is very Stepford wivesish. I just decided I was done. I’m happy I found your site. Thank you

    1. Mel says:

      Hi Michele, Congratulations on taking the first step and on your first 6 months of growing out your natural colour. You may find that your hair improves because you are not putting chemicals on it, in so much as it may be that it is thinning due to the chemicals getting into the hair follicles. It might take a while for your hair to fully recover before you see improvement but it is possible. Thank you for reaching out and for your lovely comment. Mel

  7. Ava says:

    Hi Mel, very happy to have discovered your blog! I am 4 months into transitioning and I find it to be really exciting. So curious about what is showing up on my head, after having dyed my hair dark brown for 30 years! Not giving in to dyeing every 2 weeks (!) anymore feels very liberating – and not looking the same anymore too, just by letting it go! – and I do love to care for myself, it is not about “doing less” or “giving up” at all. On the contrary. (Sorry, I am not a native speaker, my english is not so good).

    It feels good ditching the things I am not content with anymore, Hair dye is just one of them. I want to move on and discover and create new things and not waste my energy (and money) to “conserve” something, that cannot be conserved. It just didn’t make sense to me anymore all of the sudden. And I always admired the beautiful proud women with gray hair when I was young, there was something very mysterious and powerful about them for me (ok, not all, but that relates to people in general, not only the ones with gray hair ; ).

    Being able to follow this path myself now feels great. Like a second puberty somehow, with everything exciting that comes with such a profound change. I have “dull” days in between, just like I had before too. It doesn’t have to do with hair color. And what astounds me too: men react very positively. They sense something real I guess, that challenges them in a good way, not sure what it is – especially as I am still in the skunk phase. This I didn’t expect at all.

    I am much more aware about what kind of people I want in my life opposed to trying to be “likable for everyone”, which still seems to be a trap for women often. So, going gray feels great and makes me happy so far!

    Looking forward to your new posts – all the best for you : ), Ava

    1. Hi Ava,
      I loved reading your comment- thank you for sharing. It can be a very empowering process for women and sometimes the skunk line can represent that change- embracing our true selves and maybe finally being comfortable in our own skins without feeling the need to keep up with how we think we should be and instead just be who we are. I took the experience into all aspects of my life and now I just want to make the best of everything I have naturally and have a positive vision for my future that I can then share with my daughters and others. Surely that is what life is all about in all its shapes and forms. Well done for commencing your transition and you are well on your way to your true hair colour and embracing this exciting change. With best wishes, Mel x

  8. Valerie says:

    What Was your transition path?

    1. Hi Valerie, I basically went from dyed brown hair and then got 3 rounds of highlights put through before I started transitioning to my natural colour, which took me about 2 years to get to shoulder length hair. I started off with very damaged hair from the highlights and heat styling and now my hair is healthy and I have no problems with the texture.

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