Deciding to let your hair go grey can represent the entering of a life phase of personal growth and change regardless of your age. Change can bring with it wonderful opportunities but it can also go hand in hand with anxiety.
There are many reasons women decide to let their hair go grey. For me, it was becoming costly and time consuming and the chemicals were affecting my skin. Eventually I started questioning why I was going to so much trouble to cover the real ‘me’ up at such a negative cost.
Once I embraced my decision to go natural, little by little, I discovered more about myself. Be open to allowing your going grey experience to be a symbol of self love, acceptance, and the embracing of your authenticity.
Once you get to the point of complete self love and self acceptance, you are likely to live a more forfilled life. Who wouldn’t want that?
Here are the 8 lessons I learned through my decision to stop dyeing my hair.
1. Embrace Individuality.
I used this time to embrace my authenticity and individuality.
Use this time of transition to really embrace who you are authentically. Your hair colour is unique to you as is EVERYTHING about you. Embrace who you are and be proud that there is no one else like you anywhere in the world. Celebrate your strengths and focus less on your weaknesses.
Going grey has helped me see that progress happens when we are patient. A real paradox!
Going grey represents the fact that change does not happen over night. Sustainable change comes over time. Embrace this time to think about what you want out of life.
3. Self Love
I have learned that I can love myself no matter what my hair colour.
Letting our hair transition to grey is a time of change. We must remember that self love is at the centre of our existance. I love this quote by Wayne Dyer “You can’t give away what you don’t have.” You can’t give love fully if you don’t love yourself. Loving yourself takes time and discipline.
Use this time to work hard to develop a positive attitude and pay less attention to what people think. If someone gives you a compliment, instead of brushing them off and putting yourself down- just say “thank you”. Keep it simple.
Try not to take in negativity from others. Remember that people who insult others or put them down usually do it to make themselves feel more powerful. For every negative thought, give yourself at least two positives. I find this helps.
4. Self Care through Exercise and Healthy Living
I am active and fit but I am still working on finding a regime of exercise and healthy living because I know the benefits from working in the fitness industry as a Personal Trainer many years ago.
Use this time to find some exercise that YOU enjoy not what you think you should do or what everyone else is doing. Try it all if you can and find what makes you feel your best- yoga, walking, running, pilates, going to the gym?
It’s common to make excuses not to exercise, don’t beat yourself up about it, instead change your mindset. Tell yourself over and over again, that the benefits well out way the effort.
Also, remember to eat plenty of foods that nourish the body (fresh food and meats) and less of the foods that rob the body of feeling good (processed foods and sugars). I feel so much better when I eat well.
5. Only do the Essentials
I’ve added this in, because I have learned this on my own going grey journey and I wanted to share it with you.
Learning to say no is very empowering. It is perfectly fine to say no sometimes. Only do things that are essential and that keep you on your path to what you really want from life. This concept has helped me tremendously. I read the business book Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown. This book was insightful and an easy read and I would highly recommend it.
6. Don’t Fear Failure
I lived in fear of failure for a long time.
It took me a couple of attempts to stop dyeing my hair. I found I couldn’t do it going straight from dark hair to silver. I eventally found a transition path that allowed me to push through those first few difficult months through highlighting my hair. The point is that failure is full of opportunities and every time we fail, we get stronger and if we keep trying, success is inevitable one way or another. Face failure square and just keep going and don’t stop trying!
7. Bad days are just bad days
Change comes with doubt and some bad days, like many life events. Don’t mistaken a bad day for having a bad life. I love the analogy that if there is a storm, it always passes. There is never a storm that goes on and on forever, the weather clears and the sun comes out again. This is the same in life. A bad day is just a bad day and it will pass.
8. Find a Role Model
It’s perfectly fine to find a role model at any age. In fact our role models often change over time. I never had one when I was growing up but I have many now. Since I spend so much time on pinterest, it has been very easy to find role models as I approach midlife and through this time of change. In fact I have more role models than I have ever had. These people help keep you inspired to achieve your own goals. My role models are all my grey hair ladies on Instagram. They inspire me every day. In my personal life it is my mother in law. She has never dyed her hair and bowed down to social pressure. She has white hair and is really beautiful-inside and out.
Transitioning to grey hair has been a wonderful experience, even though I have had many ups and downs, especially at the beginning. Looking at it from a positive has really helped me turn this experience of change into something positively life changing. I hope that it can for you too.
Have you learned something on your going grey journey? What have been your lessons?